Taking a risk is #18 on my list of things to do before I turn 30. When I added it to my 30 Before 30 List I really had no idea how I would accomplish it. I'm sure I thought I'd wear red lipstick one day and count that as my risk. Or call in sick to work without legitimately being sick. Maybe I'd find myself turning 30 and that item still being uncrossed and try to use it as life lesson. I had no idea that I'd be crossing #18 off my list the way that I am.
This month, Kris accepted a new job in a new city. And I'm not going with him.
It's not really as dramatic as it sounds. Or maybe it is, but we're choosing to see this as a blessing. Back in March, we found that Kris may have a job opportunity in Nashville. We began to pray that God would show us one step at a time the direction we should take. As time passed, it looked like the opportunity would become a reality. So we discussed what we would do if he got the job.
I happen to be married to the most amazing man. When I decided about a year into our relationship that I wanted to apply to law school in Knoxville he fully supported me. When I got accepted, he quit his job and moved to Knoxville with me. He found a new job and supported our household during those three grueling years. He helped me find my current job, which I love. In short, he has been on team Jessica since day 1.
I knew this job in Nashville was an amazing opportunity for him and for our family. He's worked too hard to not be rewarded. I was not going to be the one who wasn't supportive, especially since he has always been supportive of me. Then, we found out he got the job. I could tell he was so happy knowing this is a giant career leap. So I decided that I was going to do whatever it took to make this work, but my darling husband is not a selfish man. Knowing that I'm crazy about my job and that I too have worked my ass for a successful career, we came to a compromise. He would go and I would stay.
Knoxville is about a 2.5 hour drive to Nashville. One can easily drive to Nashville and back in a day, no sweat. We've decided that I will go to Nashville on weekends and Kris will come to Knoxville on his days off. (In the country club world, you work weekends and are generally off 1 to 2 weekdays). We don't see each other a ton now because of our opposite schedules, so I don't think this will be that bad. Although, I'm not pretending it won't be an adjustment. It's not ideal, but I know we'll make it work.
That's my risk. Trust me I've been praying about this non-stop since the day we found out he got the job. I have peace about our decision. I really do. I feel like God is nudging us to take this leap of faith. So there you go, #18 is done!
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